December 24, 2008


We do not see things as they are. We see them as we are. ---Anais Nin

Destiny is not matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved. ---Willam Jennings Bryan

All wisdom can be stated in tow lines; what is done for you- allow it to be done. What you must do yourself -make sure you do it. -----Khawwas

What you love, you empower and what you fear, you empower and what you empower, you attract. -----Anonymous

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. --Vikotr Franki

The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone. - ---Harriet Beecher Stowe

Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents, which, in prosperous circumstances, would have lain dormant. - Horace

Look at everything as though you were seeing it either for the first or last time. Then your time on earth will be filled with glory .- ---- Betty Smith

The Tao Of Forgiveness

One day, the sage gave the disciple an empty sack and a basket of potatoes.
"Think of all the people who have done or said something against you in the recent past, especially those you cannot forgive. For each of them, inscribe the name on a potato and put it in the sack."
The disciple came up quite a few names, and soon his sack was heavy with potatoes.
"Carry the sack with you wherever you go for a week," said the sage. "We'll talk after that."
At first, the disciple thought nothing of it. Carrying the sack was not particularly difficult. But after a while, it became more of a burden. It sometimes got in the way, and it seemed to require more effort to carry as time went on, even though its weight remained the same.
After a few days, the sack began to smell. The carved potatoes gave off a ripe odor. Not only were they increasingly inconvenient to carry around, they were also becoming rather unpleasant.
Finally, the week was over. The sage summoned the disciple. "Any thoughts about all this?" "Yes, Master," the disciple replied. "When we are unable to forgive others, we carry negative feelings with us everywhere, much like these potatoes. That negativity becomes a burden to us and, after a while, it festers."
"Yes, that is exactly what happens when one holds a grudge. So, how can we lighten the load?" "We must strive to forgive." "Forgiving someone is the equivalent of removing the corresponding potato from the sack. How many of your transgressors are you able to forgive?" "I've thought about it quite a bit, Master," the disciple said. "It required much effort, but I have decided to forgive all of them."
"Very well, we can remove all the potatoes. Were there any more people who transgressed against you this last week?"
The disciple thought for a while and admitted there were. Then he felt panic when he realized his empty sack was about to get filled up again.
"Master," he asked, "if we continue like this, wouldn't there always be potatoes in the sack week after week?"
"Yes, as long as people speak or act against you in some way, you will always have potatoes." "But Master, we can never control what others do. So what good is the Tao in this case?"
"We're not at the realm of the Tao yet. Everything we have talked about so far is the conventional approach to forgiveness.
It is the same thing that many philosophies and most religions preach - we must constantly strive to forgive, for it is an important virtue. This is not the Tao because there is no striving in the Tao."
"Then what is the Tao, Master?"
"You can figure it out. If the potatoes are negative feelings, then what is the sack?"
"The sack is... That which allows me to hold on to the negativity. It is something within us that makes us dwell on feeling offended.... Ah, it is my inflated sense of self-importance. "
"And what will happen if you let go of it?"
"Then... The things that people do or say against me no longer seem like such a major issue."
"In that case, you won't have any names to inscribe on potatoes. That means no more weight to carry around, and no more bad smells.
The Tao of forgiveness is the conscious decision to not just to remove some potatoes... But to relinquish the entire sack."


Monica married Hitesh this day.
At the end of the wedding party, Monica's mother gave her a newly opened bank saving passbook. With Rs.1000 deposit amount.
Mother: 'Monica, take this passbook. Keep it as a record of your marriage life. When there's something happy and memorable happened in your new life, put some money in. Write down what it's about next to the line.The more memorable the event is, the more money you can put in. I've donethe first one for you today. Do the others with Hitesh.When you look back after years, you can know how much happiness you've had.'

Monica shared this with Hitesh when getting home. They both thought it was a great idea and were anxious to know when the second deposit can be made. This was what they did after certain time:
- 7 Feb: Rs.100, first birthday celebration for Hitesh after marriage
- 1 Mar: Rs.300, salary raise for Monica
- 20 Mar: Rs.200, vacation trip to Bali
- 15 Apr: Rs.2000, Monica got pregnant
- 1 Jun: Rs.1000, Hitesh got promoted ...... and so on...
However, after years, they started fighting and arguing for trivial things. They didn't talk much. They regretted that they had married the most nasty people in the world.... no more love...Kind of typical nowadays, huh?
One day Monica talked to her Mother:
'Mom, we can't stand it anymore. We agree to divorce. I can't imagine how I decided to marry this guy!!!'
Mother: 'Sure, girl, that's no big deal. Just do whatever youwant if you really can't stand it. But before that, do one thing first. Remember thesaving passbook I gave you on your wedding day? Take out all money and spend it first. You shouldn't keep any record of such a poor marriage.'
Monica thought it was true. So she went to the bank, waiting at the queue and planning to cancel the account. While she was waiting, she took a look at the passbook record. She looked, and looked, and looked. Then the memory of all the previous joy and happiness just came up her mind. Her eyes were then filled with tears. She left and went home.
When she was home, she handed the passbook to Hitesh, asked him to spend
the money before getting divorce.
The next day, Hitesh gave the passbook back to Monica. She found a new
deposit of Rs.5000. And a line next to the record: 'This is the day I notice how much I've loved you thru out all these years. How much happiness you've brought me.'
They hugged and cried, putting the passbook back to the safe.
Do you know how much money they had saved when they retired? I did not ask. I believe the money did not matter any more after they had gone thru all the good years in their life.
"When you fall, Don't see the place where you fell, Instead see the place from where you slipped.
Life is about correcting mistakes."

December 23, 2008

Being Critical

Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticise me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forget you. Love me and I may be forced to love you. ----William A Ward

I have no right, by anything I do or say, to demean a human being in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him; it is what he thinks of himself. To undermine a man's self-respect is a sin. ----Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfils the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things. ----Winston Churchill

Any fool can criticise, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. ---Dale Carnegie

Three-quarters of the miseries and misunderstandings in the world would finish if people were to put on the shoes of their adversaries and understood their points of view. --M K Gandhi

December 22, 2008

7 Principles to learn from an Eagle

Eagles were the symbol of almost all conquerors be it Caesar or Hitler. The reason is....!!
Read on..... Inspiration on the "7 Principles of an Eagle", Author Dr. Myles Monroe

1. Eagles fly alone at a high altitude and not with sparrows or mix with other smaller birds like geese. Birds of a feather flock together. No other bird goes to the height of the eagle. Eagles fly with eagles. Never in a flock. Even when Moses (Old Testament Bible) went to commune with God on the mountain, he left the crowd at the foothills.

Stay away from sparrows and ravens. Eagles fly with eagles

2. Eagles have strong vision, which focuses up to 5 kilometers from the air. When an eagle sites prey- even a rodent from this distance, he narrows his focus on it and sets out to get it. No matter the obstacle, the eagle will not move his focus from the prey until he grabs it.

Have a vision and remain focused no matter what the obstacle and you will succeed.

3. Eagles do not eat dead things. He feeds on fresh prey. Vultures eat dead animals but not eagles.
Steer clear of outdated and old information. Do your research well always.

4. The Eagle is the only bird that loves the storm. When clouds gather, the eagles get excited. The eagle uses the wings of the storm to rise and is pushed up higher. Once it finds the wing of the storm, the eagle stops flapping and uses the pressure of the raging storm to soar the clouds and glide. This gives the eagle an opportunity to rest its wings. In the meantime all the other birds hide in the leaves and branches of the trees.

We can use the storms of our lives (obstacles, trouble, etc) to rise to greater heights. Achievers relish challenges and use them profitably.

5. The Eagle tests before it trusts. When a female eagle meets a male and they want to mate, she flies down to earth with the male pursuing her and she picks a twig. She flies back into the air with the male pursuing her. Once she has reached a height high enough for her, she lets the twig fall to the ground and watches it as it falls. The male chases after the twig. The faster it falls, the faster he chases until he reaches it and has to catch it before it falls to the ground, then bring it back to the female eagle. The female eagle grabs the twig and flies to a much higher altitude pursued by the male until she perceives it high enough, and then drops the twig for the male to chase. This goes on for hours, with the height increasing until the female eagle is assured that the male eagle has mastered the art of picking the twig which shows commitment, then and only then, will she allow him to mate with her!

Whether in private life or in business, one should test commitment of people intended for partnership.

6. Eagles prepare for training. When about to lay eggs, the female and male eagle identify a place very high on a cliff where no predators can reach; the male flies to earth and picks thorns and lays them on the crevice of the cliff, then flies to earth again to collect twigs which he lays in the intended nest. He flies back to earth picks thorns and lays them on top of the twigs. He flies back to earth and picks soft grass to cover the thorns, and then flies back to pick rugs to put on the grass. When this first layering is complete the male eagle runs back to earth and picks more thorns, lays them on the nest; runs back to get grass and rugs and lays them on top of the thorns, then plucks his feathers to complete the nest. The thorns on the outside of the nest protect it from possible intruders. Both male and female eagles participate in raising the eagle family. She lays the eggs and protects them; he builds the nest and hunts. During the time of training the young ones to fly, the mother eagle throws the eaglets out of the nest and because they are scared, they jump into the nest again. Next, she throws them out and then takes off the soft layers of the nest, leaving the thorns bare. When the scared eaglets jump into the nest again, they are pricked by thorns. Shrieking and bleeding they jump out again this time wondering why the mother and father who love them so much are torturing them. Next, mother eagle pushes them off the cliff into the air. As they shriek in fear, father eagle flies out and picks them up on his back before they fall, and brings them back to the cliff. This goes on for sometime until they start flapping their wings. They get excited at this newfound knowledge that they can fly and not fall at such a fast rate. The father and mother eagle supports them with their wings. The preparation of the nest teaches us to prepare for changes;

The preparation for the family teaches us that active participation of both partners leads to success; The being pricked by the thorns tells us that sometimes being too comfortable where we are may result into our not experiencing life, not progressing and not learning at all. The thorns of life come to teach us that we need to grow, get out of the nest and love on. We may not know it but the seemingly comfortable and safe haven may have thorns; The people who love us do not let us languish in sloth but push us hard to grow and prosper. Even in their seemingly bad actions they have good intentions for us.

7. When the Eagle grows old, his feathers become weak and cannot take him as fast as he should. When he feels weak and about to die, he retires to a place far away in the rocks. While there, he plucks out every feather on his body until he is completely bare. He stays in this hiding place until he has grown new feathers, then he can come out.

We occasionally need to shed off old habits & items that burden us and add no value to our lives.

Five Steps to make your desires come true

From the Monk who sold his Ferrari
Step 1
The first step is to form a clear mental image of the outcome."Picture" what you want in the future.The clearer this mental picture , the more effective the process would be.

Step 2

Get some positive pressure on myself.Pressure can inspire you to achieve goals.One of the best way is the public pledge.Always declare your goals to the world. Once you make your goals known to the world, there will instantly be pressure on you to work towards its fulfillment, since no one likes to look like a failure

Step 3:

Never set a goal without attaching a timeline to it.To breathe life into a goal you must attach a precise deadline to it.

Step 4:

Magic Rule of 21For a new behaviour to crystallize into a habit, one had to perform the new activity for twenty one days in a row.

Step 5:

Be passionate about ur goal and have fun while working towards it.

There is always a better way

A Better Way !
A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet.
He held up a sign which said: “I am blind, please help.”
There were only a few coins in the hat.
A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat.
He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words.
He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.
Soon the hat began to fill up.
A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy.
That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were.
The boy recognised his footsteps and asked, “Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?”
The man said, “I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way.”
What he had written was: “Today is a beautiful day and I cannot see it.”

Do you think the first sign and the second sign were saying the same thing?

Of course both signs told people the boy was blind. But the first sign simply told people to help by putting some money in the hat. The second sign told people that they were able to enjoy the beauty of the day, but the boy could not enjoy it because he was blind.
The first sign simply said the boy was blind.
The second sign told people they were so lucky that they were not blind.
Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?

There are at least two lessons we can learn from this simple story.The first is: Be thankful for what you have. Someone else has less. Help where you can.
The second is: Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently. THERE IS ALWAYS A BETTER WAY!

December 17, 2008

Motivational Story of The Frog

A group of frogs were traveling through the woods and two of them fell into a deep pit.
All the other frogs gathered around the pit. When they saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead.
The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all of their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead.
Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell down and died.
The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. He jumped even harder and finally made it out.

When he got out, the other frogs said, "Did you not hear us?"

The frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.

This story teaches two lessons:-
There is power of life and death in the tongue. An encouraging word to someone who is down can lift them up and help them make it through the day.-A destructive word to someone who is down can be what it takes to kill them. Be careful of what you say.
Speak life to those who cross your path.
The power of is sometimes hard to understand that an encouraging word can go such a long way.
Anyone can speak words that tend to rob another of the spirit to continue in difficult times. Special is the individual who will take the time to encourage another.Be special to others.
"It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect its successful outcome."*-- William James {1842-1910 American Psychologist & Author}
"Every fact we learn leads us to the learning of another fact; knowledge is continually increasing"*-- Wallace D. Wattles

Monk who sold his Ferrari

I just finished reading the book-The Monk who sold his Ferrari.A nice book, it talks about finding the meaning of life and working towards achieving it.
Itz a story of Julian Mantle, a lawyer forced to confront the spiritual crisis of his out-of-balance life. He travls to India, meets the saints and discovers powerful, wise, and practical lessons that change his life.
Here is a blog that talks about the learnings from the book.Robin Sharma,

Some of the quotations in the book hit me hard.
Here are a few:
Wage war against weaker thoughts that have crept into the palace of your mind. They will see they are unwanted and leave like unwelcome visitors.

Everything is always created twice first in your mind then in reality.

Act as if failure is impossible, and your success will be assured. Wipe out every thought of not achieving your objectives, whether they are material or spiritual.

Be brave, and set no limits on the workings of your imagination.

Never be a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your future.
You will never be the same.

When you control your thoughts, you control your mind. When you control your mind, you control your life. And once you control your life, you become the master of your destiny.
We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.
The quality of your life will come down to the quality of your contribution.
The best time to plant a tree was forty years ago. The second best time is today.
Nourish your spirit. Do the things you fear.
Sure I am that this day we are masters of our fate, that the task which has been set before us is not above our strength; that its pangs and toils are not beyond my endurance. As long as we have faith in our own cause and an unconquerable will to win, victory will not be denied us.
One must not allow the clock and the calendar to blind him to the fact that each moment of life is a miracle and a mystery.
Self knowledge is the stepping stone to step mastery.
Every second you spend thinking about someone elses dream, you take time away from your own.
The purpose of life is a life of purpose.
What really separates people who are habitually upbeat and optimistic from those who are consistently miserable is how the circumstances of life are interpreted and processed.
Its only when you have mastered the art of loving yourself that you can truly love others.
You will never be able to hit a target that you cannot see.
Always declare your goals to the world. Once you make your goals known to the world, there will instantly be pressure on you to work towards its fulfillment, since no one likes to look like a failure.
Courage gives you the self control to persist where others have failed.
The only limits on your life are the ones that you set yourself.
Fear is nothing more but a mental monster you have created, a negative stream of consiousness.
It is not what you will get out of the books that is so enriching. Its what the books will get out of you that will ultimately change your life.
You sow a thought, you reap an action.
Reap an action, you sow a habit.
Sow a habit, you reap a character.
Sow a character, you reap a destiny
One must never live in the thick of thin things.
Wage war against the weaker thoughts that have crept into the palace of your mind.
They will see that they are unwanted and leave like an unwelcome visitor.
When you control your thoughts, you control your mind. When you control your mind, you control your life. And once you reach a stage of being in total control of your life you become a master of your destiny.
Time slips through our hands like grains of sand, never to return.
Failing to plan is planning to fail.
Having the courage to say no to small things in life gives you the power to say yes to big things.
The most productive people in this world have cultivated the habit of doing things that less productive people don’t like doing, even though they ( more productive ppl) too might not like doing them.
Laughter opens your heart and soothes your soul. No one should ever take life so seriously that they forget to laugh at themselves.
Don’t accept a life of mediocrity when you hold such infinite potential within the fortress of your mind. Dare to tap into your greatness. Its your birthright.
Act as if failure is impossible and your success will be assured.
Your life moves to a magical dimension when you start striving to make the world a better place.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
Hope for what will appear in your future is what gets you out of bed in the morning and what keeps you inspired through your days.
Today is the day to enjoy the fruits of your efforts.
Today is the day to seize the moment and live a life that soars. Today is the day to live from your imagination and harvest your dreams. And please, never, ever forget the gift of family.
Life dosent always give you what you ask for it, but it always gives you what you need.
Your genius will shine and happiness will fill your life the instant you discover your higher purpose and then direct your energies towards it.

December 16, 2008

Tough Times

Tough Times Never Lasts, But Tough People's Do. - Dr. Norman Vincet Peale

December 14, 2008

Useful and interesting sites

While browsing as useual, i found some good and useful site that you may like to visit ..

1. a site for all the videos, you name it we have it.

Written by a 90 year old...the 45 lessons life taught me.

This is something we should all read at least once...